Time on the bench


When I was young I loved play hockey. I wanted to stay on the ice forever, hoping that the puck would find my stick so I could bury it deep in the other team’s net. I dreamed about those moments.

But skating and stick handling was only half the game. The other half was spent on the bench, re hydrating and cheering on my teammates. Here’s the crazy thing: I never dreamed about sitting on the bench.

Then one day I became a pastor. I dreamed of expounding challenging texts in the pulpit and helping people follow Jesus. I never thought about the other side of effective ministry–time on the bench–the care of my own soul.

In the midst of the September rush, here’s what I’ve realized: there is a direct correlation between disengagement (time on the bench) and quality engagement. When life and ministry demand greater engagement, it’s time to get off the ice and spend some time on the bench. I’ve found that my productivity, creativity and insight is exponentially higher when I’m well rested.

The hard part is giving myself permission to disengage. Even when I think I’m letting others down by being temporarily unavailable, I’m likely not. My contribution isn’t as important as others think it is. And if it is important, I’ll be better equipped to tackle it once I’m back on the ice.

Besides, I’m no help to anyone when I feel like this.

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